OK folks, I just got this e-mail. I have to admit that I was a little shocked as this time I thought the arrangement was proceeding smoothly without any squeeking.
On Thurs 07/3/08 10:34 PM , XXX sent:
Well, I have to admit, having to bank on crummy weather for a date isn't something I've come up against before and it is not something I'm willing to start doing now. I too quite enjoy doing things outside in the daytime during good weather, but I realize that appears to be beside the point.
I'm guessing this won't come as too much of a surprise for you, but over the last few weeks I've come to sense that perhaps this friendship that we've developed has lost some of its spark and has become something that is much more of a convenience. This last week or so in particular has underlined this for me.
To be honest, I would have liked for our friendship to be something that we could go out, day or eve, and do something that we'd both enjoy and have fun with, but I have the sense that you are more comfortable with our rendez-vous being something that usually occurs later in the evening, once a week or so. While it has been nice, I must admit that what doesn't' sit well with me is that there isn't the mix of the other things to temper it so I don't feel like I've become a date of convenience for you or the back-up if nothing more interesting comes across your radar. If this is indeed how you have come to regard me, then quite bluntly, I have opportunities for that set up much closer to home (as I'm sure you do too) and it isn't something I'm into at this point in my life. I by no means expect to be seeing a person constantly throughout the week and spending every moment together. I'm fine with a casual set up such as we have, where we catch up with each other once or twice a week and have the option to to see other people if we so desire, however, part of that for me needs to be that we actually want to hang out with one another and have fun doing so when we are together. I don't think this is really happening and as I already mentioned, the notion of being a convenience isn't one that works for me. In light of what I've expressed, I think we should bring this thing between us to a close.
I'm pretty sure I'm interpreting things correctly, but if not, please feel free to explain otherwise. If you feel like staying in touch, I'd like that, but if not, I shall understand as well. I hope you find a motorcycle riding female that knocks your socks off and with whom you can spend many special moments.
--- On Thu, 7/3/08, Jimmy wrote:
Date: Thursday, July 3, 2008, 2:54 PM
I’m not sure what my plans are for this weekend (depends on the weather) but what’s your schedule like over the week or so?
I have been "indisposed" for most of the last year and it's nice to be able to come and go freely and do some of the outdoor activities again that I have so missed doing. Doesn't she understand this? As you know, this is like the 4th chick this month alone to be squeeking about me not putting in enough time. Obviously, I do not have a sufficient attendance record. I try to see them at least once every two weeks but that's not working out and I'm suffering from very high turnover.
So here's the question: what is the absolute minimum time that one can put in to keep a casual fling going? Also, do I have any chance to wring some more life outta this without getting into an actual relationship, which would be out of the question.
Thanks in advance. And mods, it's in open forum, work safe, and not insulting anybody (yet). So take it easy.