It appears no one has formally documented this formula. Yes I have done numerous searches. Everyone knows about it, but no one really talks about it. I didn't really understand it until just recently. Turns out it resides in an unwritten handbook that only S.O.'s hold as a tightly guarded secret.
It explains more about motorcycling than we will probably ever truly comprehend. After lifting the veil of secrecy, I think it's time that we all know the true nature of this formula, and it's devastating impact on our sport.
First rule of this mysterious formula is: the +1 can never be more than +1. It can't be +2, +3, +5 or even +10. Yes Stunters, that means you.
Second rule: The -1 can be any minus number. It can be -100, but for practical application it appears the acceptable limit is -10.
Now that we know the limitations of the +/- formula, here's how it applies using a few real world examples that we can all relate to.
It's Saturday, you already have approval from your S.O. for a day-ride on Sunday, but you are secretly texting your riding buddies about extending the day to include a burrito dinner stop stateside before coming home.
You are in a dilemna, do you disclose the plan and risk the stink-eye (and everything else that goes along with it) and ruin the rest of the day, surely resulting in the day ending in a -10. Or, do you keep it to yourself and do something special for your S.O. today, get +1 (remember, +1 is the max each day), and use that +1 on Sunday when you text them that you will be out for dinner?
How the rules apply:
First, there is no carry-over from one day to the next. Each day you start at zero (or less). So get that into your thick head.
You are better off to take all the minus points today, even at the risk that those carry over to the next day. Time itself will cause the ink to fade on some of these very large minus numbers. But don't be fooled, the ink never fades entirely.
The magnitude of what you do to earn a +1 has no bearing whatsoever on this system. Telling your S.O. you love them out of the blue in a special moment, offering to detail their car for 2 hours, driving all the way to Gravity & Pope to return their $600 pair of boots, driving out to Merrit (twice) with the family to get the dog of their dreams, whisking them off to Maui for 10 days, etc. They are all only worth +1. Doing more than one in a given 24 hour period will net you, you guessed it, a max of +1.
You need to plan accordingly, and spread your efforts out over time, and invest only where needed. Being +1 on the day is absolute VICTORY!.
Unfortunately, the magnitude of what you do (or fail to do, or fail to do as expected) does have a bearing on the scale of the minus system. As noted above, -10 is teh accepted daily maximum. There are exceptions (no one will ever really know what these are), and unlike the plus system, these can carry over to the next day/week/month/year.......pretty much forever. This is why grovelling was invented.
Couple Other Observations:
I learned that +1's are not transferable between families, In other words, doing something special for a friend's S.O. has no impact on your own system. Even if the two S.O's are fully aware and joint acknowledge and accept the good deed, and even though they are fully capable of transferring the credit, they never will. The +1 will also never get credited to your friend. It's like throwing money away. The only value in these types of deeds is to get +1 with your friend's S.O., but the system is so complicated as it is, and this cross-family flow of currency is so corrupt, the exchange rates terrible, I highly recommend you refrain from this. If you do feel compelled, keep it simple, like tell them how nice their new shoes are, and keep it at that.
Try and defer your efforts to get +1 to later in the day. Yes, you will have less time enjoy being +1, but the odds of you getting -1's thoughout the day are significantly higher, so using it early means you risk an immediate correction with a -1 that was already locked and loaded and waiting to be fired. This is a tough decision and I don't really know what the consensus is here. I usually wait until at least noon to try and get a gauge on the day then put my plan in place. If I am already -3 by lunch, pffft, forget it, I'll keep it until tomorrow. What's the difference between going to bed at -5 and -6? I have also found it best to do a few subtle tests to get a better feel on how well it might be received. This way I won't waste my one chance.
+1's most certainly cannot be banked for long periods of time. They cannot be frozen like sperm to be re-used when convenient. Let's say you like to ride every Sunday for 6 months in the summer. That's 24 weekend days you are not with your S.O. and/or family. One would think that if the same consideration were given to your S.O. in the off season (ie: they take pole dancing lessons every Sunday for 6 months) that that somehow works out to be even. If you even remotely believe this, then you are completely lost, and you will need more help than anything that this thread can offer with the replies that ensue.
There it is............discuss.