I figured i'd post this cuz i got a fucking finger itch and i didnt want to ruin that other thread about the song choices etc....
Ppl hate funerals because they dont want to be there, they dont want to wear suits, they dont want to bring their kids along, it makes them miss work, etc etc. It doesnt mean that they are bad people, they just have other things to do, and yes there are tons of better things to do than going to a funeral. For instance go out with his buddies to the hang out and drink some brews and talk about the good times, real shit.
In my opinion a funeral isnt to grieve, its a predictable social event that furthers people apart even more- to explain that: You see someone u havent seen in years and its great to see them so u make the effort to maybe exchange # or email which is pointless because its a formality, the truth is that both of you have other things going on in your lives so you dont really have time to "Hang out" like you used to. So the "i'll call you" means. I'll see you when i bump into you at the local grind house or when someone else dies/marries that we both know. Now thats fucking sad!
Greiveing is done on ones own time, yah there is crying and shit going at the function, it is always done by the parents anyway. I'm not saying that u shouldnt have funerals, i'm saying that a funeral should be a send off and by a send off i dont mean to play Elton Johns Lion king soundtrack. I'm talking about some fucking good time music, something that wont make ppl cry because they are sad, rather make em cry out of joy and make em remember the good times.
Another point,all the ppl who just stand there while the priest is doing his thing are all thinking the same fucking shit. "shit, why is this taking so fucking long, and whats with the shitty song, he'd never pick this shit if he had the choice. I'm hungry".
1. A funeral is to talk to your ex that dumped on you and was banging the deceased, which you are still bitter about, so youre not sure if you should be happy or sad. Of course your sad but you feel guilty for thinking that you should be happy.2. A funeral is to get your money back from your friend that u havnt seen in a year, who thinks he can avoid you by being at the very back and be the first one to split.
3. A funeral is to see your family members that you fucking hate and wouldnt under any other circumstance go and see.
4. A funeral is to feel uncomfortable and awkward like everyone else.