First off this thread is not intended to insult or verbally desecrate these monuments on the roadside, so please no bashing of current events or mention of existing memorials. I would like to discuss and explore this idea of roadside memorials and get your thought on this phenomenon.
The purpose of roadside memorials is to give recognition that a motorist may it be a rider or driver who lost their lives along a certain roadway. Roadside memorials provide the families and friends an opportunity to morn and heal. On the same hand it also marks the exact or approximate location where a very, very sad tragic (mostly fatal) accident occurred. These road side memorials are a recent occurrence by my estimation it may have started within the past 10 years and are more noticeable today then before.
This is where the issue goes grey for me, to my knowledge most vehicular (cars and bikes) accidents there is a recovery of the personís remains. The personís remains are then taken buried or ďceremonialĒ buried (cremated) in a cemetery or private plot of land. This is where I believe most people would say their good byes, and pay respects to the departed love one and family and friends that still remain.
IMO the cemetery is where respects, memorials and visits from friends and family should ultimately be. For me, I just canít visit a roadside memorial site and not think of the accident that occurred, it is this thought that takes away from truly remembering a person. The fact that the person soul and body does not rest at the roadside memorial either, in my opinion disrespect the final resting place of the love one.
The roadside memorial site has itís place (in the beginning) but in the end as time goes on it should be allowed to fade and the only memory of the person that should remain is not the accident site but the best aspects of the person and the peace that they have that and we are all searching for.
There are more in my thoughts but I shall leave it here.
Some may argue that a roadside memorial would be a reminder to all to take care and be safer on the road. In a way it does but more and more I wonder why the emphasis is put on the place were a person died and not on the place where a person rests?